Seriously. Let’s quit. No more “millennial talk.”
Now that everyone has either written about what Millennials “want” or responded to what someone else wrote about what Millennials want, it might be time to deal with the elephant in the room: We care about what Millennials want because it saves us all the long, hard, difficult, but life-transforming work of spiritual formation.
I’ll be honest. I’m sick of hearing about the “Millennials” and what they want from church. Isn’t it about time that we called Millennials what they are: Self-Centered? Just like GenXers and Baby Boomers before them. It’s not totally their fault, though. Millennials have been marketed to from birth, got trophies for showing up, and both the culture and the church immersed them in a hyper-individualized-your-way-right-away, you’re “unique” in the world mindset. We kinda did it to you.
Nevertheless, you should know there is nothing new, cool, avant-garde, or even thoughtful about wanting what you want and wanting it now; nothing particularly hip in thinking everybody else should change and bend and bow. My first grader pulls that off just fine. And, yes, every previous generation thought they were the first to “really get Jesus” too.
But maybe – just maybe – those of us ahead of our Millennial friends on the journey might serve Millennials better through seeking the Kingdom better. How about disallowing Millennials from echoing their Baby-Boomer and GenX forerunners who still – to this day – show up in churches believing church and Christian life is about what they want? Every generation complains and has complained about what the church is and isn’t. Sometimes we’re right to do so. But other times, we’ve simply missed the whole point of why God called us into community with other people with differences of thought, style, and perspective.
The truth is we’re all just too selfish.
Every. Single. One. Of. Us.